Twin Flame Runner
The Runner is what one of the two twinflames become after the arguments and fights in the beginning of ‘The Dance’ phase of the relationship.
The reason and purpose of these arguments is actually very deep. They happen because deep layers of residue from previous lives is being released and transmuted. This takes us get back to being nothing but LOVE…
[This is explained further in ‘Why Twinflames Argue’]
The conscious mind, however, does not understand what is happening deep inside at the soul level. This is what makes the Runner run.
The Runner, who is usually the man, is unable to understand consciously what is happening. This happens because he is not aware of the spiritual reality… so he doesnt know whats happening at the soul level… and his mind gets confused because this is unlike anything that has ever happened to him.
The release of the deep layers of negative emotions and ‘residue’ gives him a feeling of uneasiness.
He might not be able to explain this but he just feels ‘irritated’.
He feels that this irritation is caused by the twinflame, when actually the residue which is being released (because it just can’t stay when the twinflame love, which is a much higher energy, comes) is the reason for the irritation.
The runner also feels like he is losing control of himself because he cannot make any sense out of what is happening to him.
He tries to figure it out but just can’t. And he gets overwhelmed by the emotions.
All this combined makes him want to escape all this and he runs away from the relationship itself.
He starts to think its the other twinflame who is the reason for all this and tries to run away from her in order to escape the ‘uneasyness’ which he probably can’t even explain to himself at this point.
All that he wants is to get away from the ‘bad feeling’.
This makes him end the relationship very abruptly which is extreemly painful for the other partner.
The runner, while all this is happening, is simply very confused.
He loves his twinflame, but gets overwhelmed by all the confusion and think it is because of her.
His mind doesnt know what is going on.
He hasn’t been in something like this ever before, and doesnt know what to do.
So he runs.
The runner’s behaviour is something he himself can’t really explain. It is totally unexpected by the other twinflame who then becomes ‘The Chaser’.
If you ask a runner what exactly he is trying to do, he probably won’t be able to tell you.
Why? because he himself doesnt know.
He just knows that he wants to escape the relationship.
He’ll probably give you some silly ‘logic’ if you really ask for it… but in reality its just that he is confused.
His heart tells him to stay, because he does feel the love, but he thinks its better to go with the mind.
Being a man (which most runners are), he is conditioned to suppress his feelings and go with ‘logic’… and he can see no logic in staying in something that’s causing him so much trouble.
Ultimately, however, the Runner does realize the sacred nature of the relationship (after he’s done the running, which can go on for upto years)… and he then returns.
And that is when the reunion happens…
And that’s where their eternal ‘Happily ever after’ begins…
Advice for Twin Flame Runner
If you’ve read about the runner and have realized that its you, here is some advice…
Stop Running
The first thing that you need to do, really, is to stop running. Trying to escape the situation only stretches this painful and confusing phase (confusing for you and painful for your twinflame).
If you just try to understand whats going really on and cooperate with your partner, it will make it much easier for him/her and for you too.
As far as the ‘irritation’ or the confusion are concerned, believe me, they are not real.
You might be seeing it as something big but these things are nothing when you consider the depth of this sacred relationship.
You’ll understand everything better as the ‘residue’ (which is what causes the irritation and confusion basically) goes away… for now, just try to face it all and stop running away from it.
And ofcourse, It will all go… and you’ll be left with the perfection of the divine love that the twinflame relationship is actually all about.
Listen to your Heart
The relationship or connection between twinflames is basically spiritual in nature. Your mind is not supposed to understand this stuff.
The best advice on what to do and what not to do will come from your heart… which is where your soul resides…
Do what you ‘feel’ like doing. Go with the voice that comes from within…
Analyzing things too much is not really going to help you in a twinflame relationship.
Just follow your feelings.
As explained in the previous article, you probably are aware of the love that you feel for your twinflame… because there is not a chance that you don’t feel that way because that is what you were really created to do… to Love… and you are probably just simply trying to ignore the feeling because your mind tells you it is not going to work…
What your mind knows and tells you is based on your experiences in the present incarnation. Believe me your mind has no idea what a twinflame relationship is all about… it doesn’t know what has been going on with the two of you for thousands of years… and so, it will tell you what to do based on what you’ve experienced in this life… which would probably work for any other ‘normal’ relationship but not with this one.
Going with ‘logic’ is never really a good thing to do when you’re in a twinflame relationship. Just follow your heart. Do what you feel.
Believe that it is REAL
Someone actually ‘made for you’… it seems unbelievable at first because you probably haven’t ever seen or heard of any such thing before.
Know that it is the spiritual truth that the world is waking upto.
Twinflames have been written about in texts written thousands of years ago. Search it up if you want to.
It just wasn’t something common till now and so most people were not aware of it. Now, as the world moves into the aquarian age, many twinflames are coming together… just like you 🙂
Yes, there are some tiny issues or problems to tackle,
but once you get beyond that, there is love… And only love… Boundless Eternal Love…
And If you’ve realized whats going on…
I say don’t waste even a single day…
All this while that you’ve been running, your love has been in pain…
the greatest pain in the universe of being separated from one’s other self…
And knowing everything and still not being able to anything about it… and feeling the greatest intensity of the most sacred love and not being able to express it… these are things that can’t ever really be told using words…
And it is emotionally intense… and very painfully so… specifically for women, who are more sensitive than men…
I know it because I’ve been there… and I know how I wake up each day and just wait for it to end sometimes… just waiting for my runner to return…
Be glad that you’ve realized it now…
And just Go get her (or him)…
I’m sure s/he must be dying to be in your arms… 🙂