Advice For Twin Flame Chaser

by richee on July 10, 2012 · 7 comments

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Advice For Twin Flame Chaser


Twin Flame Chaser

Becoming the Chaser is not something that this partner intentionally does… It happens naturally… The inner ‘knowing’ and awareness of the twinflame connection is what drives the Chaser.

Women are usually more emotionally sensitive than men… That’s what often makes the woman in the twinflame relationship understand the true nature of it before the man does.

Men are also conditioned (since the caveman era, when they had to hunt for survival) to hide their emotions and feelings… that makes them suppress the inner ‘knowingness’, consciously or subconsciously, with or without their own knowledge…

For this reason, The Twin Flame Chaser is usually the woman.
[That does not mean that a man can not be in this position, It ultimately depends on the life plan.]

To make things simpler to understand, we’ll assume that the Chaser is the woman.

Being highly sensitive, The Chaser can ‘feel’ the depth of this relationship and knows that it is somehow special… This feeling is there even if she doesn’t consciously know what it is all about…
Now, When the other Twin flames suddenly tried to escape or run away,
Two things happen to the Chaser.

One – She is deeply hurt and afraid of losing her partner.

The intensity and the depth of love that she feels for the twinflame is more than anything else that she has probably ever felt. When the Runner just runs away without even a warning, she gets a huge emotional shock… much more than she can handle.
This makes her act ‘crazy’ sometimes. She will, at this point, do almost anything to get the Runner back…

The emotional pain of the Chaser is intensified even more by the memories or residue of the many previous lives in which she had lost him.
All the pain and suffering from all of those lives is stirred up and comes back to the surface when the Runner runs away…


Two – She knows there is some deeper meaning to this relationship and feels that the two of them ‘Should be together’ to make things alright.

She has a feeling deep inside that everything will be okay… they should just be together (which is true).
She might not be explain this to the Runner or to anyone else but strongly feels it.

And because of these reasons,
She tries to ‘Chase’ the Runner.
To get him back, no matter how.

The Chaser herself might be very confused at this stage, she might not even be able to understand whats happening to her,
all she knows is that she cant afford to lose the Runner, no matter what.

The Chasing, however, only pushes the Runner further away.
Then comes a point when she shatters completely (emotionally).
The pain of having the runner run can be literally mind numbing.

Now That’s where God’s magic begins…
She tries to look up information just to find out what was it that is happening to her. It is not just a normal relationship, she knows that for sure.
And that’s when the Spiritual reality reveals itself to her.
That’s when she understands the sacredness of this relationship…
and all of this ultimately leads to her Enlightenment.

Then comes the Waiting time. That is when the ‘Chaser’ is enlightened and the Runner is still running…
This can again be a very hard time for the Chaser.

Ultimately, once the phase is over, the runner does return, and that’s when the Grand Reunion happens :)


Advice For Twin Flame Chaser

If you’ve read about ‘The Chaser’ and figured that its you, here is some advice…

Know that your partner WILL Return…
With all that you are going through, knowing that the runner will return is enough to ease half the pain.
Twinflames are ever connected by the eternal sacred bond that never breaks.
They are literally created to be with each other. Nothing can take them away from each other.

Understand that your partner will come back once they are ready for the intensity of this relationship.

Let them take their time, pushing or chasing is not of much use.

Avoid ‘Chasing’ him/her
The runner runs because they are afraid of the intensity of the relationship at some level.
Chasing him/her at this point only makes them run more.
Give them some time, and know that they will come when they are ready.

Know that the universe in helping you
Being in the ‘Chaser’ position can be hard. You might feel lonely and helpless. DONT.

The universe plays its magic in bringing twinflames together.
Know that you are supported by all divine beings in someway… whether you know it or not.
Doing too much at a human level is not required to get your twinflame back… just remain calm and you’ll see that everything takes care of itself (it might take some time, but trust me it will happen… just be patient)

Believe In Yourself
During this phase, there is often a lot of confusion.
Your mind does not agree with what your hear tells you… And If you try sharing it with someone else they will probably tell you you’ve simply ‘lost it’… These people usually are not aware of this deep spiritual reality and give you ‘practical’ advice which doesn’t work for a twinflame relationship…

Understand that what is happening to you is not unusual… and you are perfectly all right.
Just Believe in yourself and follow your heart… and everything will be okay :)

Understand spirituality
The more you understand the spiritual reality, the more sense everything will start to make.
The relationship between Twinflames is basically spiritual… You’ll understand whats going on in the relationship the more you explore spirituality… This is not something that is necessary… but I believe it helps allot.

And If you’re comfortable with it, use the Violet Flame to balance your karma… this (or any other meditation) also helps calm the mind which is required during this confusing and difficult phase.


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{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Valentina January 31, 2013 at 9:51 pm

This is excellent advice, however as a “chaser” I would like to point something out. If you as the chaser are in touch with yourself and fully honest and committed to your path, you will see that the time is not ready for the two of you to meet until it´s time, not only because the runner is runner, but also because you as the chaser are not ready. The dance is a symbiosis: in appearance there is one that runs and one that is left behind, but in actuality BOTH are working simultaneously to facilitate the integration that will ultimately bring them together. The key to peace and effective solution for the chaser is to realise that the path towards self-work, self-integration is also exactly the fastest path to attract the runner back…Twin are connected forever and always, not only through love, but also in their manifestations, their progress, their steps. Always remember: the path towards yourself is the path towards the twin flame, because you two at a higher level are one indivisible entity.


admin February 9, 2013 at 12:13 pm

Hi Valentina,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts..


Susana May 10, 2013 at 11:48 am

I completely agree with you my Twin and I have been manifesting this running/chasing stage for almost a year and I hadn’t realized I needed to realese some fears along the stage itself in order to get clear in my heart and of course for him to feel that peace and harmony.. we are not physically together yet but, I can sense with my non physicall senses we will be togheter soon.. I am glad I have found people experiencing the same as I am . At some point in my spiritual awakening after I met him, I felt completlely lost and almost crazy to feel such an Intense feeling of Love towards a person I barely knew after I saw his eyes


annette field February 13, 2013 at 11:01 pm

i met this man in 2008, and since then i have read up about what i experienced as it was so intense i had to find out what on earth was happening to me, i was married at the time, and now i am divorced, my marriage wasnt a good one anyway and it seems that it had come to the end of the road, but when i met this man, the whole of my life made sense, everything about him seemed to click into place, but i met him on holiday, far away from my home so how i will ever see him again is beyond me,
i managed to trace him online, but nothing has happened since then, the only thing that has happened is that i cant move forward, i keep goin back to this meeting in 2008, and cant seem to move on from it, im very confussed about everything as i keep getting signs to make me think about this man again, even starting a new relationship has got me into deeper confussion now, more than ever, its way too complicated to type but that road in 2008 is leading me into something that i feel unable to get out of, but i feel something is also guided me down this route, even thought it makes no sense to me at the moment as to where its all goin………..


Clark November 15, 2013 at 4:02 am

We met in 2005 and I was not just elusive I was in shear denial. I was caught in the web of what I was birthed into.. This was directed as such as to show me what I was in the world of form. The connection was the pull to the truth. Without this knowing I would have never understood what I was in the connection itself.

Runner and Chasers are the ego traits we don’t see because we are taught to live entirely from our mind.

Our twin connection was about how we connected beyond the world of form, beyond the mind, and how we interact in the world of form. As I completely ran from her removing even contact for the next two years I started to die on the outside to what I was outside. I reconnected with her late 2007 and took my existence in October. The rebirth was the shedding away of all I was not. The mirror of how I was became more apparent to me by looking in her eyes and seeing that she could see me to include my own manipulations and lies that I was living inside myself. My truth that love was more, was hidden because I created an illusion of the world to live outside myself. This was false.. I was running from myself.. Until you give up the ego and the mind which points outside you then expect this to continue with your twin.

You are the mirror allowing yourself to make the other able to see this is where this becomes false, It is the shear focus of you and your truth and how you respond to every act from energy, you can’t re emerge your twin to connect without this very thing. If you stand in your truth and accept yourself you call to your twin and the pull is undeniable. It doesn’t happen with mind interacting with mind, it happens with your knowing directly inside of what your mind has created as a you in the universe of form.

Being a chaser or runner is what you do to yourself.. If you have two flames placed inside the other united it turns blue.. This is what this means.. Allowing another to show you yourself.. What you give to yourself you give to your twin.

Love deeply,


Bruce July 25, 2014 at 3:19 pm

The eyes… Yes, the eyes…

I just saw a post here referring to the eyes…

The eyes had a lot to do with my recognizing AmandaLynn from my dreams.
They were the SAME Eyes… The same experience when looking into them.
Early in our ‘relationship’, actually on our second day of meeting, I looked into Amanda’s eyes and I felt just what the other person (a woman) here related that she felt. And Amanda admitted to me that She also felt this connection, when She looked into my eyes… Until the point where She began to deny that we even had a relationship.

Hurt and still Confused…


Amy August 26, 2014 at 6:32 am

Is it common for both to play the role at some point? In the beginning I was in a bad marriage and conflicted with my feelings with tf. I left my husband but returned and he left his wife. I was the runner he was the chaser. Then I felt confident in myself and my life and left my husband for good and couldn’t be happier. Tf and I have been together in a relationship (so I thought) for 6 weeks. He just returned to his wife because he didn’t give her ‘a chance’. He’s the runner and now I’m the chaser. I’m up and down emotionally. We’ve commented how roles have changed and how we both should know how the other is feeling because of that. When I’m having a difficult time I read this page. It helps. Thank you.


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