In my “Facing Challenges with Your Twin Flame” post I wrote that every relationship – even those with your twin flame love – will throw up challenges for you to face.
There are many reasons why twin flames undergo an often temporary time of physical separation after the initial meeting. It is believed that when twin flmes first meet their souls alight in the flmes of love. But then for some relationships there comes the troubles, the conflicts, the arguments, the hot/cold behaviour, the confusion, the feelings of so-called craziness – the list goes on. Buy why does this happen? Why, when there is so much love, is there so much conflict and running away for each other?
Experts on twin flames will tell you that this is a soul connection and our souls are made from pure love.
Think about it for a second, our souls are love, in it’s purest form. Our souls are so eager to reconnect us with out twin flames in the physical, you’d think it would be simple. But, we are each individual, and there are those that believe there are many lessons to learn, many tests to take before we can fully unite with our twin flames.
First there is the ego and all the preconceptions we have about the way we think love should be. But this is soul love and therefore it is impossible to try and limit the love by forcing it into a purely romantic setting. This is placing conditions upon our love. The soul loves unconditionally and until we enter more into our soul-consciousness, our souls will keep repelling, because we are placing expectation and conditions upon the connection and this is not pure love.
This means we have to cultiate our soul to a level of awareness that can accept the truth of true love.
Twin flames are reflections of each other, of Self, so it is said – and they show us everything
about ourselves that we don’t love, accept and what needs healing. When these inner blocks still remain, they will continue to be reflected between the twins and yet again it will repel them to go their separate ways again until we look inwards and heal inwards individually.
Often twins run because there are parts of themselves they don’t love or accept, and they can’t handle seeing these things illuminated through the connection.
They don’t feel good enough and are afraid that if they get close, the other twin will see these parts of themselves (they are trying to deny or hide) and reject them. This rejection, they believe, would crush them and prove to them the very things they detest about themselves to be correct. They run from their own fears about themselves.
However, this is often subconscious, and the twins point their fingers at each other, and blame the other for the breakdown of a physical relationship. But experts say this is a learning curve that has been pre-determined by both twin flames before they incarnate, to help them learn and grow the most. The physical separation forces the twin flames to eventually look deeper within and awaken more to their soul-consciousness and realise that it is about healing the self.
We must find ourselves before we find true love: we must learn to love ourselves before we can love our other self.
Depending on the individual, sometimes it takes time for twin flames to trust in the love. As the attraction comes about immediately and so intensely, it often goes beyond the logic we are taught to trust in, rather than emotion and intuition.
Many twins feel the transformation happening within them, as they awaken more and more to their soul-consciousness, but try to fight it because they are afraid of the unknown. They believe they are happy (or at least comfortable) at how they had made sense of the world before meeting their twin flame – it fits into most other people’s views too.
They wonder how they could survive if they suddenly allowed themselves to trust in intuition and soul and spirituality. Won’t people think they are mad? Won’t they lose friends and even family? What if they are married, won’t their husbands/wives think them mad or bad? They feel so alone, so confused and they they are mad, So they run, to save themselves the trouble.
But as they run from the connection, their twin flame and themselves, they begin to lose themselves, and close up their heart – becoming numb, depressed, and lost. On the surface they try to make out everything is fine. They are desperate to make everything fine, and bring their lives back to some so-called normality again, because they fear they are weak to believe in this twin flame love – especially when they think the twin has hurt them so much (or has the potential to hurt them).
They cannot yet see that it is their own inner hurt, their own inner rejection that has caused so much pain. But their inner numbness becomes very frightening, their depression very real. People can see they are changing but they cannot tell them why – no-one would understand.
SO they begin to feel more and more alone, and they are pushed deeper into themselves, into their emotions. But this is where their intuation is and where the inner knowing of the soul-consciousness resides. Eventually the fear of losing themselves will become bigger than the fear of facing up to their inner issues.
As the saying it is darkest before the dawn can ring so true, sometimes twin flames need to feel the deepest depths before they accept there is another way into love, into freedom, into happiness.
But the path leading to that can be very rocky and will be for a reason, to help them trust in themselves more and love themselves. Trusting and knowing yourself is important, so it can be reflected back between the twin for reunion to occur.
(Article source: mickiekent.blogspot.com)